What’s Your Story?

January 3, 2009

There are many (many) ways to try to understand both individual personalities and relationships with others. Over the years, I’ve become somewhat familiar with quite a few of them (although I still seem to be a bit “clueless” at times) and thought that you might be interested in thinking of Love as a Story (for example):

The Teacher-Student Story

    (life is a school; learn lessons; teach each other)

The Travel Story

    (life is a journey; companions travel together)

The Garden Story

    (we reap what we sow; plant/nurture what you want to grow)

The Cookbook Story

    (recipes for success; follow directions; use the right ingredients)

The Sewing and Knitting Story

    (custom made, tailored, patched together piece by piece)

The House and Home Story

    (caretakers and homebodies)

The Business Story

    (partners, boss and/or employees)

The Game Story

    (competition; winners and losers)

The Collection Story

    (show off your prize/toy/trophy spouse)

The Pornography Story

    (sex, degradation, debasement)

The Government Story

    (love is about power, shared or imposed)

The Police Story

    (law enforcement and punishment)

The War Story

    (marriage is a battle; lots of arguments and fights)

The Sacrifice Story

    (selfless martyrdom to help the other)

The Science-Fiction Story

    (unusual, strange, “unreal”; aliens from other planets)

The Fantasy Story

    (unrealistic fairy tales where they lived happily ever after)

The History Story

    (time together = memories; shared past)

The Art Story

    (beauty, attractiveness, admiration)

The Addiction Story

    (enablers?)

The Recovery Story

    (co-dependence?)

The Religion Story

    (salvation?)

The Science Story

    (analytical, dissection, examination)

The Horror Story

    (terror! abuse, victim)

The Theater Story

    (scripted, drama! actors, roles)

The Humor Story

    (funny!, entertainment, amusement)

The Mystery Story

    (unsolved)

Most people are living out more than one story (sometimes at the same time). What matters most, besides recognizing ours, and choosing to write an ending we like, is ensuring that people in our lives are, if not on the same page, at least in the same story. Many relationship problems are actually the result of disagreements about which story love, marriage, parenting, family, etc. is being acted out/shared.

Whatever stories you relate to, I want to thank you for being part of mine!

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