Making a Baby

Whether of not you desire to conceive a child, it’s a good idea for both partners to know how babies are made.

Ovulation occurs on days 13-15 in an idealized 28-day cycle. This is toward the end of the 5- to 7-day fertile period. If your cycles vary within the acceptable 26 to 32 days, the fertile period is from days 11 to 17. If you have intercourse three times during the fertile period, there is probably good exposure. It does not matter if you have intercourse a couple of days in a row, or that several days are skipped without intercourse. The chances are great that over a period of several months, your timing will be perfect. You do not have to play out the sitcoms where the male is called home because ovulation is occurring at that exact moment. Experts all agree that no one ever knows that!

Still, it may help to more precisely determine the time of ovulation to improve your chances. It is best to have mobile healthy sperm waiting at the end of the fallopian tube at the time the egg is to be released. The egg, or oocyte, is viable for probably no more than 24 hours. Yet sperm can retain their fertilizing capacity for at least 2 days, and possibly 3 to 4.

If your periods are regular, a regular calendar can show you when the most likely time ovulation. Start by writing down when you first start each menstrual cycle. You may be surprised that you are not as regular as you think.

*Determine the approximate time ovulation by marking an X when your period should begin.
*Count backwards from 14 to 16 days, and place a second X.
*Now use this calendar as your Baby-Making Cheat Sheet.

There are two clinical signs signifying ovulation – pain and cervical mucus changes. Some women have both and do not ovulate. Some women have neither and ovulate regularly. Everyone is different.

Midcycle pain (mittelschmerz) usually occurs 2 days before basal body temperature (BBT) elevation. Ovulation generally occurs 1 to 2 days after the lowest temperature point. When there is a clear rise in temperature, this is called the shift. In a 28-day cycle, the shift should occur on cycle day 13 to 14. In longer or shorter cycles, the shift should occur 10 to 14 days before your menstrual period starts.

Intercourse on the days prior to ovulation gives you the best chance of making a baby.

In theory, any position you use to have sex should have no major bearing on getting pregnant – remember it takes only one sperm to make a baby! No intercourse position has ever been shown to be the most likely to make a baby, but it makes sense that the positions that allow maximum contact with the cervix and the deepest penetration are better. These include:

*Missionary position
*Rear entry/knee chest position

The best quality sperm (the super-sperm) are in the first part of the ejaculation when penetration is usually deepest.

Some semen is almost always lost as the vagina returns to its normal shape.

the uterine contractions that accompany female orgasm may give sperm an extras boost up into the cervix.

Baby oil is the only vaginal lubricant that does not significantly hinder sperm. Saliva is the worst. Never use a petroleum-based lubricant such as Vaseline. K-Y jelly and olive oil (even at diluted concentrations) also hinder/damage sperm.

Caffeine has been found in more than sixty plants, including coffee and cocoa beans, kola nuts, and tea leaves. Tea and chocolate also contain ingredients like theophylline and theobromine, which can stimulate the heart and central nervous system.

A number of studies have shown that caffeine increases sperm motility. Whether this is a positive or a negative effect is not known. Scientists know that there is a burst of energy followed by an accelerated sperm death. But before you down cups of coffee before having intercourse, take caution. For every report about the negative effects of caffeine on sperm, there is a report showing no effects at all.

Calcium and iron are two minerals that are especially important during pregnancy.

What you eat now can affect your health for years to come.

You must try to use natural foods to meet your nutritional needs instead of relying totally on supplements.

Pregnant women: increased amounts folic acid, iron, calcium, and vitamin C. Add 10 grams of protein.

vitamin A (beta-carotene), vitamin C, vitamin E, zinc, selenium, folic acid, copper, iron, magnesium, water, vitamin B6, vitamin B12

Avoid soft cheeses such as Brie, blue cheese, Camembert, and feta unless they are heated to boiling stage. These cheeses often have bacteria called listeria, which are linked to miscarriages.

Phytochemicals appear in all plants. [grains, fruits, and vegetables]

Aim for 5-9 servings of fruits and vegetables each day for optimal health.

Sulfides (allyl)
Ellagic acid
Limonoids, terpenes
Linolenic acid
Phenolic acids
Plant sterols
Phytosterols, saponins
Protease inhibitors
Phytic acid

Broccoli (sprouts)
Green Tea
Olive Oil

Types of Miscarriage:
Blighted ovum
Complete(d) abortion
First-trimester miscarriage
Incomplete abortion
Inevitable abortion
Missed abortion
Recurrent (habitual) miscarriage
Second-trimester miscarriage
Septic abortion
Spontaneous abortion (SAB)
Therapeutic abortion (TAB)
Threatened abortion

D&C = dilation and curettage
VIP = voluntary interruption of pregnancy