Note to Women

A relationship consists of two whole individuals. Don’t look for someone to complete you. Look for someone complimentary, not supplementary. Don’t try to change yourself for a relationship that’s not meant to be.

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay. Don’t make excuses for a man and his behavior. You cannot change a man’s behavior. The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. Never let a man define who you are. Don’t settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don’t stay because you think “it will get better.” You’ll be mad at yourself later for staying when things are not better.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then do NOT think you can “be friends.” A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend.

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

A man will only treat you the way you allow him to treat you. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.

Never borrow someone else’s man. If he cheated with you, he’ll cheat on you.

Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship. There is nothing cute about baggage. You need time to heal between relationships. They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them, and an entire lifetime to forget them.