50 Most Desirable Qualities

Individual preferences, relationship requirements, and hierarchies of values vary, but many people feel they “must have” the following traits, qualities, characteristics, or behavioral tendencies in their potential mates (for their relationship together to succeed, be fulfilling, and satisfy their mutual needs):

27 Most Commonly Desired Traits
1. Chemistry: feeling deeply in love with and attracted to the partner.
2. Communication: someone good at both talking and listening.
3. Sense of Humor: someone sharp who can enjoy the humorous side of life.
4. Verbal Intimacy: a partner who shares his or her deepest emotional thoughts and desires.
5. Emotionally Health: a partner who is emotionally healthy and able to share a stable life with someone else.
6. Strong Character: a partner who is honest and strong enough to do the right thing.
7. Artistic: a partner who has a passion for music, literature, drama, art, and the finer things in life, either as a spectator or participant.
8. Kindness: a partner who is gentle and kind.
9. Educated: someone whose educational achievements are of a similar level.
10. Organized: a partner who values structure in his or her life.
11. Exciting: someone who isn’t afraid to take a risk and who sees life as an adventure.
12. Patient: someone who can handle life’s frustrations or momentary setbacks with a patient, steady demeanor.
13. Tolerant: a partner able to hear and appreciate divergent viewpoints.
14. Conflict Resolver: a partner who will work to resolve rather than win arguments or conflicts within our relationship.
15. Attractive: a partner considered “attractive” by most current standards.
16. Personal Habits: a partner who maintains high standards of personal hygiene, orderliness, and other personal habits.
17. Affectionate: someone comfortable giving and receiving affection.
18. Industrious: someone willing to work hard at whatever they do.
19. Energy Level: someone whose energy level matches my own.
20. Emotionally Generous: a partner who enjoys people and is generous with his or her compassion, attention, sympathies, and love.
21. Intellectual: a partner who is bright and can share an understanding of the world as well as enjoy discussing important issues.
22. Self-Confident: a partner who knows and believes in himself or herself throughout life’s ups and downs.
23. Unassuming: someone able to accept criticism and even admit to being wrong sometimes.
24. Able to Accept Help: a partner willing to accept outside help for personal or relationship issues that are serious and important.
25. Curious: a partner hungry for new information and knowledge, and who strives to learn as much as possible.
26. Loyal: someone who can be counted on – to be supportive and on the same side.
27. Adaptable: a partner able to adapt to life’s surprises.

5 Most Commonly Desired Values
1. Family Life: a partner committed to marriage, home, and family.
2. Shared Interests: someone willing to share my interests and passions.
3. Style and Appearance: someone who cares about the way they look and dress and has a sense of personal style.
4. Shared Politics: someone with the same or similar political beliefs.
5. Spirit of Volunteerism: a partner who shares a willingness to volunteer and support community and/or social causes.

5 Most Common Preferences Regarding Family
1. No Children: someone who shares a desire not to have children.
2. Family: someone who shares a desire to have or adopt children.
3. Stepchildren: someone who will accept their partner’s children as his or her own.
4. Parenting Style: someone who shares views about how to raise children.
5. Parent Care: someone willing to help me take care of (their and/or) their partner’s parents, now or when the time comes.

3 Most Common Preferences Regarding Social Living
1. Staying In: a partner who mainly enjoys staying in together and having quiet evenings alone or with close friends.
2. Sociability: a partner who loves to socialize with lots of different people.
3. Autonomy: a partner who will give enough space to for a partner to be their own person.

3 Most Common Preferences Regarding Spirituality
1. Spirituality: someone with a similar deep commitment to spirituality and who shares my beliefs.
2. Religious Practice: a partner committed to being an active member of a church, temple, or congregation.
3. Spiritual Acceptance: a partner who accepts and respects my spiritual beliefs, whether he or she shares them or not.

3 Most Common Preferences Regarding Career and Finances
1. Responsible: a partner who is financially responsible.
2. Ambitious: a partner who shares desires to achieve high financial and/or career goals.
3. Relaxed: a partner able to forget about money and focus on the important parts of life.

4 Most Common Preferences Regarding Sexuality
1. Abstinent: a spouse who has saved himself or herself sexually for marriage.
2. Conservative: someone reserved and traditional in his or her sexual needs.
3. Sexually Knowledgeable: someone mature and knowledgeable as a potential sexual partner and able to express himself or herself freely.
4. Passionate: someone willing to explore mutual sexual desires with passion and understanding.

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