A good leader is usually also a good follower. A good follower, however, would do best to NOT try and lead – even when their “leader” is not doing as “well” as s/he would like. A good follower will make them both look (and feel) good – just as a good leader will (attempt to). People will notice (and tell others) about how you are WITH someone MORE than how well you (may or may not) dance (on your own).
Most people are living out more than one story (sometimes at the same time). What matters most, besides recognizing ours, and choosing to write an ending we like, is ensuring that people in our lives are, if not on the same page, at least in the same story. Many relationship problems are actually the result of disagreements about which story love, marriage, parenting, family, etc. is being acted out/shared.